Thursday, March 21, 2013

How Bad Do You Want It?

Genesis 32- Jacob has spent 20 years in Haran, working for his father-in-law Laban. He now has a family and a herd and God is sending him back to the promise land, Canaan, to be with his father, Isaac, and to fulfill the prophecy that has been passed down from Abraham. In this chapter we see that, while Jacob is completely in God’s will, he wrestles with God, literally!

Have you ever been promised something, then had to wait for it? Isn’t it what consumes your mind relentlessly? I love those moments of anticipation, when my mind gets to wonder about how it’ll all play out. I get to imagine what it’ll feel like when everything comes to fruition. But then, eventually, if enough time goes by, that warm and fuzzy goodness fades away and is replaced by impatience, frustration and maybe a little bitterness. And then I start to plan out how I’ll make it happen. Taking control of the reigns and of my life, it is MY life after all...right? How far would you go to make that promise a reality? Would you try to buy it? That seems reasonable. Would you lie for it, maybe manipulate your way into getting it? You may argue that the end justifies the means, but does it really?

Jacob’s promise came when his mother, Rebekah, was pregnant with twins. God told her that Esau would serve Jacob (Genesis 25:23). Jacob was always very strong and capable, even at birth he was grabbing at Esau’s heel on the way out (Genesis 25:26). He was also very smart, some would say crafty even, when working with others. He mostly stayed in the tents (community) and worked well with people in their community. Traditionally, the family birthright would’ve gone to the firstborn, Esau, but Jacob, thinking back to the promise, wanted it. He saw Esau in a compromised position, he realized he had the upper hand in that moment and he seized the opportunity. He bought Esau’s birthright for a simple bowl of stew (Genesis 25:30-34). And then there was the blessing. This was the beloved promise that had been passed down from Abraham. This was God’s promise to give their descendants the promise land (Canaan), to make their descendants greater than the stars, and to bless all generations through their seed (Jesus Christ) (Genesis 27:28-29). Jacob wanted this blessing and through manipulation and trickery he disguised himself as his older brother Esau, falsely presenting himself to his father, Isaac, and in doing so received the blessing, the promise. It had been prophesied that Jacob would be in line for the blessings all along, and I’m sure he knew that as a child growing up. But how much satisfaction do you think Jacob had with the blessing once Isaac found out he had been deceived? How good does it feel to gain something through lying and manipulation? Can we really enjoy the end result? I know what that answer is for myself, do you?

After Jacob received the blessing (which couldn’t be reversed by the way) he was sent to Haran for 20 years. I’d probably want to go away too, and not show my face to the ones I hurt! But now comes the time when God tells Jacob that it’s time to go back to Canaan. In the 20 years that Jacob was away a lot happens. In addition to being married and having many children, he has built up his father-in-laws business as well as his own. He has been a hard worker and very successful. God has also done a great work in his heart and Jacob truly listens to God, follows God and walks with God. As he, his family, servants and flocks travel to Canaan one night he’s alone. During the night God incarnate comes to him and wrestles with him. And I wonder why now? Why when Jacob is in God’s will? Why when he is going where God has directed? Why when so many are relying on Jacob for their protection and provision? As I began studying this passage I thought that it was because Jacob needed his confidence built up and surely wrestling with God would do that. Instead I found that just the opposite happens. Hosea 12:4 says that Jacob “wept and begged for His favor”. Rather than Jacob’s confidence being built up, he is completely humbled. Through this struggle he realizes that it is not about taking what he deserves because it is owed to him, but rather that he’s a mortal man, unworthy of the One who has given the promise. Through this exchange Jacob’s perspective changes from “this is my life and I’ll take what I deserve” to “I need You God for direction in all things, please guide me”.

This is what it took for God to get Jacob to the frame of mind that the blessing comes from Him, to the point where Jacob WANTED the blessing to come only from God instead of his own doing. After that night Jacob never looked back, he was a changed man and he allowed God to lead him in all things. How bad do you want blessing from God? Bad enough to lie? Bad enough to scheme and manipulate? Bad enough that you’ll take advantage of anyone you think is in your way? How about bad enough to ask God and wait for Him?

Dear Heavenly Father- Thank you for the many blessings You have for me. Help me to wait on You for Your many promises. ~ Beth

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Are You Strong Enough?

In America we have a saying that is commonly used. It goes: “God won’t give me more than I can handle.” This is such a feel good statement. It references God which, I think, brings comfort. It acknowledges that life is hard, but that I won’t break under the pressure. And some take it a step further indicating that coming through a struggle makes them even stronger. On the surface this all seems great, but may I suggest that this saying is far from God’s character? Think about it. God doesn’t give us bad because He is not bad, He is good. God does not expect us to handle the bad things in life alone, He walks with us. God does not expect that we are strong enough on our own to successfully come out the other side, He’ll give us His strength as we depend on Him. And we can praise Him for bringing us through!

The spring of 2002 was a wonderful time in my life. Here I was 25 years old, happily married with a growing belly, a perfectly healthy pregnancy with a baby boy due in late April. I had gladly left my career in home design to focus on this little bundle of joy and our growing family. This moment in my life was a culmination of dreams come true, answered prayer and years of making difficult but right decisions. Things could not be more right in that moment. April 1, 2002 is a day in my life that I will never forget. It was a monday, April fools day and the day after Easter. I was deep into nesting and preparing for Kyle, our son, to arrive in just a few short weeks. It was a beautiful and unusually warm spring day which prompted Brett to come home from work early so that we could take a walk in the sunshine. After our walk and dinner I was cleaning up the kitchen, Brett was nearby on the couch. He was entertaining me, as he likes to do, making jokes, making me laugh and - as many pregnant women have experienced from too much laughter - making me wet my pants! Or so I thought. Once the laughter subsided the other did not! I looked at Brett, surprised and in disbelief, and said “I think my water just broke”. Thinking back that would have been a great April fools joke, but this was really happening. We threw some essentials into a bag and off to the hospital we went. A late night of pitocin, pain medication and monitoring was followed by the early morning delivery of Kyle Andrew Slater. He had lots of dark brown hair, a button nose and perfectly shaped ears. He was so cute and sweet. His little body, four weeks early, measured 19 ½ inches long and weighed 5 pounds 12 ounces. In addition to his small size he was not breathing well or nursing at all. The nurses came to me with concern and asked if they could take him for an xray of his lungs. I was unable to go with him, so Brett went with the nurses to take Kyle for the xray. To my complete surprise Kyle did not return to me that day. Xrays confirmed that his lungs were not strong enough for him to breath well and get the oxygen he needed. He was put on a ventilator as he began the first 9 days of his life in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. After my token 2 days of recovery in the hospital I found myself packing up and heading home without my brand new baby. That was one of the most difficult things I’ve had to do in my life. It felt so different, so lonely, so empty. As Brett and I began to drive out of the hospital parking structure I stopped him. Before going any further I needed to pray. I needed to call out to God for His comfort and His guidance. I needed to remember that my understanding is minute and God’s is all encompassing. I needed to lay my child down at His feet and trust Him to lead me through a life circumstance that was bigger than anything I could handle on my own.

Did God give me the early delivery of my son? The weak lungs? The extended hospital stay? Of course not! God is good and brings good things to people who love Him. “How abundant are the good things that You have stored up for those who fear You, that You bestow in the sight of all, on those who take refuge in You.” Psalm 31:19 But we live in a fallen, broken world and so we experience the result of that. Yes, we struggle, but please know that God does not cause tragedy. His heart breaks when we suffer and His desire is for our good. “For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

Did God abandon me in my time of need? That is far from the truth. Not only has God surrounded me with people in my life, God is with me, too. God’s desire is to walk with me in my highs and lows. God asks me to give Him my burdens and offers to carry the weight of life’s struggles. 1 Peter 5:7 says “Cast all your cares upon Him for He cares for you.” In fact, this is not a mere suggestion or request by God, but instructions on how to lean on Him in our time of need.

Did God expect that I was emotionally and physically able to handle this? That attitude ignores the fact that I am commanded to “lean not on my own understanding” Proverbs 3:5. When I lean on God He enables me to walk through the storms of life. My strength comes from Him and He equips me on a daily basis, I am constantly depending on His strength, not my own. Philippians 4:13 says “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I get through the struggles because of His strength and my accepting His help. Lamentations 3:22-23 says “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” New every morning, I love that. Each day I begin by leaning on Him is a day of His mercy and faithfulness in the struggles of my life. And not only that but a day of learning and growth. God’s word says that “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Jesus Christ” Philippians 1:6. Since Jesus has not yet returned, then God is still at work in me and I’m confident that He is using the struggles of life to do it with.

Finally, as I come out of a storm I can look back and see how God has moved in my life, how He has sustained me and my loved ones and how He was in control when I was uncertain. God desires my praise in the good and in the bad simply because He is God. When I praise Him in all things I also have a reason to tell others of His goodness. I praise Him because He is the Creator and I am the created one. I praise Him because He brought me into existence. I praise Him for the sacrifice He made on the cross to cover my sins and bring me back into relationship with Him. In all things I praise Him. “Praise be to the Lord, to God our savior, who daily bears our burdens.” Psalm 68:19

I have never been one to be sickly or need to see doctors for anything other than the normal healthy check up required to play sports in school. I had never had a broken bone or stitches. I had never stayed in a hospital for any reason. I was not prepared to leave my newborn in the care of others in the NICU. I was not strong enough to wake up on that third morning in my own bed, without the child who had been with me for the last 8 months. But for those 9 days I leaned on God to get me through and I’m all the better for it. For His strength is complete, His understanding is full, His peace is beyond any pep talk I could ever give myself. I was not prepared to care for a premature infant with weak lungs and apnea. But through prayer and trust in God I have raised this child for almost 11 years now. He is strong, healthy and energetic and such a joy in my life. I thank God for him!

So, the next time you find that saying come to mind and across your lips, think again. Do you find yourself in a place that is more than you can handle? How will you humbly trust in His strength to lead you through it?

Heavenly Father- I know that I live in a broken world and that the struggles of life are a part of that. Thank You for Your care during the good and the bad, and help me to always depend on You to get me through. ~Beth

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Hopelessly Romantic

Ruth 2- Ruth was a Moabite woman who was widowed and living in Judah with Naomi, the mother of her deceased husband. Without much hope for their future, Ruth set out to glean in the fields for food, literally pick up the scraps that the harvesters missed. What she found was a kinsman-redeemer, Boaz, who showed her kindness, offered her shelter and provided for her physically and spiritually- much like our Heavenly Father.

I have shared with you that I’m a dreamer, in addition to that I’m a hopeless romantic. I’m a sucker for a good (or sappy) chick flick where the girl and the guy live happily ever after. My favorite fairy tale growing up was- yep, you guessed it- Cinderella. And I remember the first time I read the book of Ruth, it was so romantic! When I finished reading it I found myself daydreaming about the moment Boaz saw Ruth in the field. He then asked his foreman what he knew about this young lady. In my mind she would’ve been young with long brown hair and wearing a flowy peasant dress, with beautiful olive toned skin. I imagine rolling hills in the back drop. I’m sure the movies have influenced my ideas, but either way you get the idea.

Then it dawned on me...is God a hopeless romantic, too? After all He inspired this love story to be recorded in His bible. He has also included many love songs and poems in the Psalms. He created you and me for relationship and gave us the covenant of marriage. In fact, He calls the church His bride and says that He’s preparing a banquet feast for the day that we are with Him. I’m thinking that all signs point to YES! God is a hopeless romantic!

So, if God is a hopeless romantic and He gives us that quality too, then how can we relate to Him in that context? Stay with me now, I’m not suggesting that you go on a date with God! But think about a time in your life when someone caught your eye. Or the time in the beginning of your relationship with your spouse that you first began developing feelings for him or her. Where did your mind go? Did you think about the next time you’d see them again? Did you ask a friend about them to try and find out who they were or what their story was? Did you look for opportunities to include them in your activities? When you were with the person did you study their moves, picking up on the little details that added up to the sum of their being? Did you ask them questions just because the thought of knowing them better, deeper was exhilarating? This is the kind of romantic I’m talking about and as we go through this passage I want to point out some of these romantic qualities of God in the blossoming relationship between Boaz and Ruth.

Let’s begin with Ruth’s past. We know from chapter 1 that she was a Moabite woman, but what does that matter? Well, the Moabite people were not followers of the Almighty God. In fact they worshipped idols. That’s the culture that Ruth was raised in. Not a Godly home, or a Godly culture at all, in fact, far from it. And yet she now finds herself in the nation of Judah. A country and culture that very much followed God. Not only that, but she was gleaning in the field of a Godly man, Boaz. What does Boaz do when he first sees her in the field? He finds out who she is and what her story is. He knows right off the bat where she came from and who she’s with. The parallel I see in Boaz is that God does not care about your past. I’ll say it again, God does not care about your past. That includes every day until the present. It is today He is after.

Ok, so here is Ruth in Boaz’s field, in his presence. Now what? In verse 8 Boaz speaks to her for the first time. He is quite the gentleman offering her safety in his field and refreshment as she has been tirelessly working. The next thing I see is that God is always a gentleman. He never forces Himself on anyone, but always gives opportunity to stay in His presence. In His safe-keeping we receive His living water to sustain our weary souls.

At mealtime that evening Boaz invites Ruth to his table to share a meal with him and the harvesters. There was more than enough food to go around and she is able to bring the extra home to Naomi, her mother-in-law. God always provides more than we need for this very reason. As we are filled by Him we are able to go and share His offerings with people around us.

Verse 15 just might be my favorite part of this whole chapter. Boaz instructs his harvesters not to embarrass Ruth if she doesn’t glean the “right way” and then goes on to say they should leave extra out for her to pick up. I would love to stand here and say that I enjoy being corrected...publicly, but that is far from the truth. In fact, I just might go to great lengths to hide my many imperfections. God knows this about His children and here I see God’s character trait of care, compassion and protection for the ones He loves. He not only cares for our physical needs but for our emotional needs as well. That’s pretty romantic if you ask me!

It turns out that Boaz is Ruth’s kinsman-redeemer, her perfect match! It means that, being a close relative of her deceased husband, he was responsible to marry her and take care of her and her mother-in-law, giving her much hope for her future. Much like Boaz was for Ruth, God is our perfect match. He is the One who loves us purely and deeply. He sees our needs and meets them beyond expectation. He has also given us a redeemer, His name is Jesus Christ. He is the hope for our future and the only way to have a relationship with God, our creator.

I love that God is a hopeless romantic! I love that as I think about Him and ponder Him it draws me closer to Him. I love that as I spend time with Him in prayer and reading my bible I pick up clues about Him and what His character is. I love that His desire is to look out for me, to protect me, to provide for me and even when I make mistakes He doesn’t shame me.

Dear Heavenly Father- Thank you for loving me and when I get busy with life always draw me back into the sweet romance that is Your love. ~Beth